Not surprisingly, it is the session scores that are most significant, which is why students’ reactions to them are special. Since I haven’t forgotten what it means to be a student, I still remember the negative emotions that a negative score, or at least your dissatisfaction, can bring – that’s what I wanted to talk about in this post. Odd coincidence, but with this score the student usually goes through 5 phases – just like in a recent article about how people deal with unexpected bad things. Maybe the phases occasionally alternate with each other, but as far as we have encountered, the course is about …
Phase 1: Denial
In this phase students are usually reluctant or unable to realize that they have received a poor score. The mood remains uplifting, repeating to friends and myself, “Apparently not done the job yet”, “Probably a teacher / system error” or “Neeeee … after all.” Yes, sometimes teachers make mistakes too, but in that case I would recommend contacting the teacher as soon as possible to make sure.
Phase 2: Anger
Undoubtedly, the most destructive of all, during which students draw their entire arsenal of wisdom. Initially, a battalion of accusations goes in – wrong assignments, a poorly educated lecturer, a scoring system, a bunch of other settlements, sometimes even the dean’s office or the entire education system. Later threat artillery is used – sometimes influential parents or other relatives are reminded, appeals are remembered, and teacher certification is threatened, as well as any other coping or scary things. All but the student are guilty verbally. I will not deny – there are various situations in which the student’s guilt is low. However, my advice is not to wait for a session if you have a problem (with science or with the lecturers) and to resolve it as soon as possible.
Phase 3: Negotiations
When a spill occurs (or sometimes before a spill), it’s time to negotiate. Perhaps the most intrusive and least awaited faculty phase, with students with their suggestions and requests attacking them in every way possible (live, email, phone). If you had to pick the TOP 5 most heard phrases, it would probably look like this:
- # 5 “Or maybe I can come over to rewrite with another group?” (By the way, not so bad if the student doesn’t have chronic rewrite syndrome)
- # 4 “… yes, but I promise next semester to really learn, just write me x score”
- # 3 “If you write me an x score, I won’t have to come overwriting and you will have less work to correct in one job”
- # 2 “Lecturer, but all my other semester scores are very good, but this one is small … Could it be somehow stretched to x?”
- # 1 “But I miss so little to the x score … Look, let’s add 0.x here, still 0.0x here and it will be fine! Well maybe you could add those 0.x score ..? “
I would advise you to negotiate with the lecturers for objective things that could raise your grade. Well, let’s say I always look at students differently if most of my grades in my module are better and one is low (maybe it’s a mistake on the part of the lecturer to fail). I also really appreciate it if the student demonstrates his / her willingness to learn throughout the semester (attending lectures, asking questions).
Phase 4: Depression
When neither negotiation nor anger arises, the student sinks into the sadness of sadness. Who pours out sadness in facebook status updates, who drops in a mug or an 8 hour CS party – probably just the university has learned so many ways to reduce negative emotions. By the way, mothers of children are sad about their sadness as well – with an average of one mother per year throughout her teaching career trying to find out why her offspring get such low marks (so far, bad grades have always been due to elementary absenteeism). My advice is to not feel too sad and bad-tempered to be treated as another challenge that will not be one or ten in your life. Lots of students underestimate their strength – with a little more time to study they can get out of almost any “pit”
Phase 5: Acceptance
This phase begins when you have to deal with grief, and you already have a debt note in your hands, or at least a thought of a rewrite date agreed with your tutor. My advice is to try to get to this phase as soon as possible
And just look at life easier – after all, it’s not the end of the world that bad sign. I believe there are truly extraordinary students at the faculty who can safely be called the bright future of the country. Good luck